Good morning everyone,
Everyone likes independence but that idea causes havoc with what God asks of you. See, everyone likes to make decisions for themselves because then they feel less of a need to depend on someone else. Making decisions should always be a consultation process with the Lord. Good decisions produce Godly wisdom because you've already consulted the 'Top Consultant!' We tend to look at the decision making process from a selfish standpoint unless we ask Him to give us His wisdom. Godly decisions go against the flow of what human nature would decide. So you have to decide up front that He is in control! More confrontations happen between man and woman, husband and wife, because of selfishness and stubbornness than for probably any other reason. God ask of husbands to be a good example for wives to live by and not to be a hammer that stamps out life. In 1 Corinthians 11, Paul describes how he ask the Corinthians to follow him as he follows the example of Christ. He goes on to say that the head of every man should be Christ, the head of every woman is man, and the head of Christ is God. Man is responsible as He leads. If we as men don't get Godly wisdom so that we can make Godly decisions, we are going to lead our wives completely down the wrong path! For you single men, start out right now by giving Him control of your life and asking Him to fill your singleness. If He decides to provide you a mate, you will be much more ready than most that jump into marriage. Think about how many women would be better suited if we as men were to completely trust that He knows the mate that we need. Admitting that you can't do it alone is the first step to Godly wisdom. Seek His face and consult Him about every decision as you go forward.
Your brother in Christ,